The Wyatts live in Owasso, just outside of Tulsa, a strongly conservative community. “There’s a lot of Q flags in our neighborhood, a lot of Trump flags and Blue Lives Matter Flags, [but] you don’t see any pride flags at all,” John said.
John admittedly wasn’t always so supportive of the LGBTQ community — for most of his life, he was very conservative and religious. But that changed when he and his wife got the inkling that Caden, who was still a young child at the time, might be gay. “That’s when we really started embracing [the community], because we knew our son was gay, and at any time he could come out,” John said. “And he needed to see that we were going to be able to support him and be there for him.”
The flag the family hung outside their home is the “ally flag,” featuring a rainbow letter A atop a background of black and white stripes, which Caden and his mother bought at their city’s first Pride festival last spring. Caden has a classic pride flag hanging in his room, but he hopes the ally flag will serve as a symbol that his whole family stands with the LGBTQ community. “I want people to know that my parents have their back, and so do I,” Caden said.
The ally flag has sparked some debate among TikTok commenters, some of whom have taken issue with it over the idea that it centers straight and cisgender people. As John explained in a follow-up TikTok, "the black and white bars represent the heterosexual and cisgender community, the allies...and of course the rainbow colors in the 'A' represent the LGBTQ+ community." John said he researched the flag to make sure he was not promoting something he shouldn’t, but that he got even more comments from people saying they loved the flag the family chose. "[Caden] is the one who told us to buy this flag to show support for him ... but I'm not above doing a little more research," he said in another TikTok.
Source : https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/juliareinstein/pride-flag-ally-dad-son-oklahoma-tiktok358